Twenty years up to now I had a nasty breakup with the mother of my children. The stress and guilt of our reduce up precipitated me to experience erectile dysfunction. I consulted a doctor and was prescribed Viagra. The day after getting the meds I had glorious intercourse with my girlfriend, nonetheless after a few month I decided to attempt with out the tablet and failed miserably. So I went once more to taking a tablet every time I’ve intercourse. I get them on-line now so I don’t even talk to a advertising and marketing advisor. I take half a pill 20 minutes sooner than intercourse, with out telling my companion; nonetheless, I get harassed at the thought-about it not working and sometimes get coronary coronary heart palpitations. I ponder if I must return to the doctor and get an implant or one different sort of medication. My lover thinks I’m a virile man and might be shocked if she knew I took the blue pill.
The coronary coronary heart palpitations you’re describing may be of concern, so please put together an in-person session with a doctor immediately. Other than that, your nicely being is your personal enterprise. If it doesn’t affect one different particular person you don’t wish to share your medical particulars – or your medication protocol – with anyone else. One of the useful points about ED meds is that they’ll cut back erectile anxiousness – nonetheless this doesn’t seem like working in your case. And you’re doing all of your best to “perform” successfully nonetheless that anxious focus won’t be primarily the very best path to sexual pleasure, satisfaction and true intimacy. Pause and consider what genuinely presents you pleasure; I suppose it’s not solely about erectile perfection. You deserve far more relaxed erotic pleasant.
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